Soft Skills 101: Get rid of the lack of soft skills once and for all !
Are soft skills important? What is the importance of soft skills? What are soft skills?
How to develop soft skills? How soft skills can help my resume? What is the difference between hard skills and soft skills? How to improve your personality using soft skills?
Hey there, I am sure that you might be facing these same questions whenever you try to improve your personality, when you try to make a strong impression on the interviewer or when you are giving a presentation in your meetings and many similar situations like that!
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Don't worry, I've always got your back and in this session, I will try to cover everything possibly related to soft skills specifically, so that after the session you can have no doubts about it ever again!
Let's get started!
INTRODUCTION TO SOFT SKILLS:
So Mohit tell me, "What is the meaning of soft skills?", Okay!, Don't worry, I am not going to copy and paste the Wikipedia meaning of the soft skills rather I will try to make it more practical way!
Let's assume a situation?
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You take a taxi from the airport. The taxi driver minds
his own business and takes you to your destination. He collects his money in
the end and is on his way.
Another scenario. You take a taxi from the airport.
The driver smiles and greets you, offers to put your luggage in the boot. He
may or may not strike a conversation on the way. But when you pay him at the
end of the trip, he smiles again and thanks to you.
Which taxi driver would you
prefer to travel with? Obviously, the second one.
Hence, the meaning of soft skills can be defined as the way you personalize your behavior in any situation whether its a normal meeting or in an important presentation.
Simple right? let us go deep.
People who have these skills are the most successful in the whole world, this is one of the most important factors for you to succeed in your life, while the absence of soft skills will not only create a bad impression on the other person but it will also kill your future opportunities.
Soft skills consist of many things, consider it as body language, eye contact, public speaking, etc.
Don't worry, we will take all these factors in a few mins.
Before moving forward I want to show you some famous lies about soft skills which we were following till now blindly!
3 SHOCKING FALSE BELIEF RELATED TO SOFT SKILLS:
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1) I am the only person who fears to speak publicly:
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This is the first lie we all think its true, you might don't even know that even celebrities like Shahrukh Khan before speaking publicly try to comfort themselves by walking, smoking, and other activities. So it's not only "YOU" who fears public speaking but we all face it and overcome it.
2) Many people are born confident:
This is also another belief we all have that when we see someone of our age speaking so confidently we excuse ourselves by saying "yaar ye paida hi confident hua hai (That guy is born confident, we can't do anything)", Friends, there is no skill in this world which cannot be taught by someone and can not be learned by someone, you might know this;
"Malcolm Gladwell's book outliers says that anyone can master a skill with 10,000 hours of practice"
So, let us move on and bust the next false belief!
3) It's a bad trait to have a feeling of fear before going to speak publicly:
When you are having a stage fear, it helps you as it increases your heart rate and your respiratory rate and it converts your body to take action with full confidence, and hence after the stage fear, after the speaking we feel more confident and happier!
Let us move forward!
I believe that it is true that when you understand the importance of something you put more focus on that and hence I want to tell you the importance of soft skills first!
ARE SOFT SKILLS IMPORTANT?
Okay, let us answer this question "Are soft skills important, and if yes then how?", first of all, yes soft skills are very important!
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Let's take it practically, suppose you are a business owner and there are two candidates(A & B) for a job and you are interviewing them, suppose person A is a very good candidate with every technical skill you require but speaks very arrogantly.
On the other hand person B has the similar technical qualities (lesser than person A) but he speaks very well, he has good communication skills, he has been a great leader in his field, he might don't have every technical quality as A but he is a good listener, a positive person.
So who are you going to choose? of course person B because he might not have the technical skills but he can be trained in a few months and he would be perfectly fine!
You might still have doubt about this situation but I would like to support this with some evidence my honor ;)
TOP 2 FACTS ABOUT SOFT SKILLS:
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- It has been found that 46% of managers said that young workers do well to hone their communication skills and 56% said recent grads do not pay attention to detail!
- 60% of managers claim that the new graduates they see taking up the job within the organizations do not have critical thinking and problem-solving skills they feel that are necessary for the jobs.
So you might have understood the importance of soft skills and developing soft skills is important as well.
In a single sentence, Soft skills are the difference between the adequate candidate and the ideal candidate!
10 Growth Guaranteed Soft skills you don't want to miss or you will hate yourself later!
1)COMMUNICATION
No matter which field you are in, Communication skill is the most important because if you don't know how to communicate effectively it is more obvious you are creating a dull impression on the other person and you will likely to be ignored by everyone if it is the case you are facing don't worry, we got a few prescriptions for you ;)
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a) Read, read and read: The more you read, the more you learn and it will improve your vocabulary as well, no matter what you are reading, read good books, read good articles, read newspapers, etc.
b) Talk to yourself!: This is the best way to improve communication, pick up a topic and start the conversation with yourself looking the mirror and talk continuously for 5-7 mins no matter which language you want to talk, while doing this you will see yourself how you talk, where do you lack in speaking, is it a fluency problem or a vocabulary problem or something else, but the best part is that you don't have to worry because if even if you are making mistakes you are the only one who is watching and who is going to correct it!
c) Be a good listener: You know the word communication is itself derived from Latin word "communicare" which means "to share", means to give and to receive, so when you are speaking to someone make sure you listen first and then talk because it will create an awesome impression on the other person and it will make him think that you are genuinely in treated in what he/she is speaking and he will more likely to connect with you more often,
Thank me later ;)
2)LEADERSHIP:
Leadership is a soft skill you can show even if you’re not directly
managing others. Leadership can be thought of as a collection of various other
soft skills, such as a generally positive attitude and outlook, the ability to
communicate effectively, and an aptitude for both self-motivating and
motivating others.
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For learning Leadership soft skills, I would highly recommend you to check this article of mine!
8 LEADERSHIP LESSONS OF SIR RATAN TATA YOU WISH YOU KNEW BEFORE
Ratan tata is one of the best leaders in the world and we can learn so much from him!
3) SELF MOTIVATION:
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No matter what you do, whether you start a new job, new business, anything which you love to do, you are going to face people and that people are called as " NAYSAYERS" they will always say you, "it cannot be done by you", "this is not possible for you", blah blah but if you are self-motivated and you believe in your dreams, in your action, you will succeed.
Self-motivation is the best source of motivation you can ever find on the internet or in the whole world.
HOW TO BE SELF MOTIVATED?
a) Read, read, and read: What? again? Yes, reading does not only increase your knowledge but it also increase your enthusiasm, it increases your focus, it also motivates you, also make sure you are reading about the things you love to do, you want to acquire knowledge about!
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b) Watch inspirational movies: If you really motivated enough for your work but needs some support mentality, I would love to recommend you to watch these motivational movies:
- The Pursuit of Happiness(My personal favorite).
- The Shawshank Redemption.
There are more, but as you start watching these movies, you will automatically find similar movies like that ;)
c) Be grateful for what you have: Trust me or not, you will not become successful in your field when you are not grateful for what you already have, people who have achieved success in life are always grateful for what you have.
"Greatness comes not just by doing great things but by being grateful"
-Gaur Gopal Das
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(Tip: Every night before going to bed, always thank god for what you have!)
I would love to give write more about it, its my favorite topic but I don't want to make it longer for you so lets move on to next.
4) SELF AWARENESS:
To begin with this, I want to tell you something that I recently founded, you know why the Lord Shiva's body is always with Ashes?
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The reason is it symbolizes that our body is a form of ash and it will turn into ash, and to always remember it, Lord Shiva wears rudraksha because rudraksha is the only thing which does not get spoiled, can not be perished and hence this truth of our body can never be perished! This is a great example of being self-aware.
You should be self-aware, don't worry we got you covered with this too!
HOW TO BECOME CONSCIOUS AND KNOWN ONESELF BETTER?
This is very simple, all you have to do is SWOT analysis, I will explain to you shortly!
S= Strength(Know your strengths, the things which you are good at it),
W= Weakness(Know your weakness, the things on which you lack ),
O= Opportunities(Consider and look for opportunities and claim it), and
T= Threats( It includes anything that can negatively affect you or your business from the outside)
To know more; Give this a try!
5) TEAMWORK:
To explain teamwork in one sentence, Your body! Your mind can not work if your body refuses its decision, every single part of your body helps the mind to achieve the decision taken by the brain.
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Teamwork is one of the most important soft skills which can increase your possibility to achieve success, every single player is credited for the goal in the football match, every single cricketer is responsible for winning the match, similarly, when you win, give credits to your whole team including the simple office cleaning person :)
"It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed"
-Napolean Hill
6) PROBLEM SOLVING:
Problem-solving does not just require analytical, creative and critical
skills, but a particular mindset: those who can approach a problem with a cool
and level head will often reach a solution more efficiently than those who
cannot. This is a soft skill which can often rely on strong teamwork too. Problems need not always be solved alone. The ability
to know who can help you reach a solution, and how they can do it, can be a
great advantage.
Always remember this:
"You are paid in direct proportion to the difficulty of the problems you solve"
-Elon Musk
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Hence, one must try to find a solution to every problem instead of being stressed about the problem!
7) DECISIVENESS:
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Knowing the distinction between decisiveness
and recklessness implies a soft skill in itself. Decisiveness combines a number
of different abilities: the ability to put things into perspective, to weigh up
the options, to assess all relevant information and, crucially, to anticipate
the consequences, good and bad.
8) UTILIZE PRESSURE:Believe me or not, those who acquired success, fame, money in their life, they know this secret of Utilizing pressure to favor their situation. This is the most important soft skills along with others because most successful leaders faces lose just because they cannot cope with stress with pressure and they let the pressure to overcome their mental and decreases their productivity!
"Remember, Pressure is what that turns a lump of coal into a diamond"
HOW TO UTILIZE PRESSURE TO BENEFIT YOU?As per me, Control your mind and it will control your situation and the best way to control your mind is Meditation. I know it sounds boring but that's the basic.
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Meditation is the only way I believe that can control your mind, which can increase your productivity and control the situation as you want and decrease your stress and your pressure!
Trust me, i wont tell you anything to do that I have not experienced personally! Also doing meditation is a very easy process.
"There is a saying, Instead of reacting to the situation, start responding it!"
Also to make it more special, I would love to suggest you some important points given by Sir Irrfan Khan!
9) FLEXIBILITY:
Naturally, people can be wary of
leaving the comfort zone formed by their repertoire of hard skills. Flexibility
is an important soft skill since it demonstrates an ability and
willingness to acquire new hard skills and open-mindedness to new tasks and
new challenges. Employers often seek candidates who can show a willing and
upbeat attitude, since many jobs come with the possibility of secondments.
Last but not least,
10) NEGOTIATION AND CONFLICT RESOLUTION:
This is another of those soft skills
which employers look for in potential leaders. To be an adept negotiator is to
know how to be persuasive and exert influence, while sensitively seeking a
solution which will benefit all parties. Similarly, conflict resolution
depends on strong interpersonal skills and the ability to establish a rapport
with colleagues and clients alike.
If you know how to negotiate with a person, your half battle is won I mean that no matter which field you are in, you are going to create a good influence on others!
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Friends, I just realized that this became a little bit bigger than I thought, don't worry I will still explain the rest but in the next part, so the next part will consist of How to develop soft skills? How to put these skills in the resume? How to apply soft skills practically? How to become a trainer of soft skills? and many other questions ;)
Till then, you can reach me directly through instagram and i am most active there and we can discuss any problems of yours if it is feasible and yes, would love to hear from you and STAY TUNED!
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Thank You ;)
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